Korean best friend to lovers trope

Old tales (Way back when…)

My favorite from the trope — probably what inspired this writeup

I haven’t written anything here in a while, majorly because I’ve been too busy to type it up, not that I’ve been too busy to write. I’ve been journaling it (like I’ve always done since a time so far back, I can’t even remember) so that when I’m ready, I don’t have to worry about what to post, I’d already have it on hand.

Since I don’t have anything new, I’ll post these.

I have three or four of such which I’ll be posting in the next few weeks or days.

1. Korean best friends to lovers trope
2. Arguments (haven’t found a better title)
3. A freeverse poem, I think? (pretty recent)

And as a bonus, chronicles from a day in the past

So, here goes a tale from a time I can’t fully remember — Korean best friend to lovers trope. Cliche, until it wasn’t.

Another one

I can say I’ve watched my fair share of Korean dramas and like many others, the best friend to lovers trope has been used so many times that we mock at sentences, that as we believe, could not happen in reality.

Sentences like

“I kept my love from you all these years because I was worried I’d lose you as a friend.”

I didn’t understand this until it happened to me.

Growing up as the youngest in a family of five with an elder sister with quite the age gap and an immediate elder brother, as I spent more time with my brother, I learnt to do things like he did, not realising that he did most of them because he was a boy.

So i grew up with boyish mannerisms and in junior high, I had best friends who were girls. However, after a case of “betrayal” or so it seemed at the time, I lost all my female best friends to other people.

Then, my boyish mannerisms came to play and got me lots of guy friends. This continued into college where I had male besties with whom I could speak about anything.

That’s where the story started.

So, since all the girls around me seemed to be dating, I wondered who I’d date and marry. I was really curious about the choice I’d eventually make that I jokingly mentioned to a friend that if I had a time machine, I’d go to the future to see who I’d end up with.

Long story short, my best friend began to appeal to me. I don’t know much about love or the butterflies feeling and not to be too forward, but I pictured myself being happy with him.

Then, as the modern woman that I strive to be, I decided to ask him out. Hence my conundrum.

Worry creeped in.

If I asked him out and he said no, it could make us awkward and I wouldn’t be able to share all that I did. Then I’d lose his friendship.

“What if he said yes?” you’re probably thinking. Well, that didn’t make me worry any less. If American movies were anything to learn from, you’d know that most relationships don’t get to the marriage stage and like I learned from kdramas, if you date your best friend and break up, you can’t be friends anymore and even your mutual friends had to pick sides.

This worry sucked all my courage because through it all, I didn’t want to lose his friendship. It meant too much to me. So, I chickened out and kept it in.

Till today, he doesn’t know I even thought of this.

So, no. It’s not a cliché. At least, not entirely.

I couldn’t confess to my best friend that I possibly liked because I was afraid to lose our friendship.

Now, it’s over.

And yes, this is the same Kim Ji Won who recently acted Queen of tears. I’ve been an ardent fan of hers for a while now. Since The Heirs, Descendants of the sun, Arthdal chronicles and Fight for my way.

Recalling this memory today made me think of guys who ask ladies out. You guys are doing a great job. How do you go about it?

Help a girl out. My next friends to lovers trope story might just be about you and this time, maybe I’ll have the courage to ask you out.

P.S: As for who I’ll end up with, I’m still very curious about who it’ll be. So, if you’ve made a time-machine, please let me know.